Ever had a moment when your confidence is lost in the air?
Your confidence has a habit of disappearing just when you need it most. When you're making a big decision or when you need to dig deep to follow through. Or when you want to step out of your comfort zone, or realize that you are way out of your comfort zone and wondering how quickly you can sprint back to it.
What do you do in those moments? What would help these moments?
Here are some ideas that can help when you lose your confidence.
These thoughts are simply mental events just like any other thought running through your head. "I have a blue car," "I like eggs" and "I'll just good" are other popular ideas that you can concentrate on.
The problem comes when you think thoughts like "I'm not sure enough" and "I can't do this" and make them your focus. The first step is to notice the idea and to take a moment to look at this moment, and discard those thoughts.
Remember what it is to be the best. Remember what it is to be firing on all cylinders and playubg your best game. Remember what it is to be with friends or family – to be smiling, laughing and enjoying yourself.
Remember what you have accomplished. Remember that you have tested yourself before and not only you are still here, but you're glad that you tested yourself. and came out stronger
Remember what is important for you. Remember what really matters.
The more you focus on things that can go wrong, your confdience gets lower and lower and lets panic set in. When this happens, visualize youself thinking that it's ok to go forward, it's ok to proceed. What image can you create that would help you get back in the saddle?
You should always be able to make a choice, but only after you have regained your awareness. So what would you do if you knew you were more than capable of dealing with what happened? How would things be different?
What is a decision you can make based on your abilities and opportunities instead of your disabilities?
I have found that when my confidence is leaving me, my thoughts spiral inward. Around and around and tighter and tighter as they go, leaving me paralyzed and unable to think and move. A trick I have learned in these situations is to take a step back, and focus on the people around me and what I can offer them. I focus on what I can do instead of what I can't do.
Saturday, May 14, 2011
Monday, April 18, 2011
How To Be Confident With Girls: Basic Do's and Don'ts to Building Confidence
Your dating success depends on you learning how to be confident with girls. Being confident means you have an undying trust and belief in yourself or your abilities. If you don’t believe and trust in yourself, how do you expect her to trust and believe in you? Stick to these guidelines regarding what you should and should not do to be confident with girls:
Do’s
Mimicking
If you want to learn how to be confident with girls, mimic others who are already confident with girls. Choose a mentor. Think up anyone you know who is good at attracting girls or who is a "natural" and learn from him. Mirror everything that they do. Pay close attention to what you think will and will not work.
Doing “Man” Stuff
Learn MMA or work out at the gym. Going to the gym to work out will not only keep you healthy, but it also helps with your physical appearance, and both can help increase your confidence. Learning mixed martial arts automatically gives you the title of a fighter. And being able to fight has made guys more confident since the beginning of time
Dancing
Why do male dancers always get all the girls? It’s because they are confident! Dancing is a major form of self expression. If you can dance, you already have the edge over 90% of guys. If you're not good at dancing, take some lessons and watch your confidence skyrocket.
Music
Music is another channel for expressing yourself that can increase your confidence and have girls go crazy for you. Take a look at rock stars, rappers and Justin Bieber. 'Nuff said.
Practicing
Confidence is a result of practice. Becoming confident with girls will not occur right away but it will steadily develop if you practice at it the right way. And remember, confidence creates confidence. The more you are confident in one area of your life, the more it will carry over to other parts of your life. Practice confidence at all times.
What You Should Not Do
Complaining
No one enjoys hearing a guy whine and complain about all of his problems, and particularly not girls who are hot and in high demand. They have problems of their own. Whining and complaining shows her that you're definitely an unconfident amateur. Anytime there is a problem, be a man, take charge and instead of wasting time complaining, try to find a positive solution to make things better.
Calling Too Often
Calling her too much shows that you don't have anything more exciting to do with your time. Give her room to breathe. Consider this: If someone was calling you non-stop, would you consider that person is confident or irritating? Don't chase her, let her chase you.
Crying Out For Attention
People that demand attention are best described by one word: insecure. People who are confident do not need to brag, boast, show off or be loud and obnoxious about it. Confidence is a silent language that can be understood even without you having to say “Look here! I’m Confident!”
Giving Up
Those who give up or who aren't persistent enough often stop in the midst of trouble. Yet learning how to be confident with girls is characterized by trying and trying again until you make the improbable a reality. Always be looking at the bigger picture or your long term success. A rejection is not the end of the world. Regroup and try again later.
Making a Big Deal out of Small Things
Never make a bid deal out of small things or blow things out of proportion. If you do, it suggests a deep lack of confidence because if you can't handle the small things, you sure as hell can't handle the big things. Girls like guys who can handle the big things.
Learning how to be confident with girls is not difficult, but it does take time. Fortunately, since you know why and how to begin building confidence, you can get started right now! And remember, practice, practice, practice!
Do’s
Mimicking
If you want to learn how to be confident with girls, mimic others who are already confident with girls. Choose a mentor. Think up anyone you know who is good at attracting girls or who is a "natural" and learn from him. Mirror everything that they do. Pay close attention to what you think will and will not work.
Doing “Man” Stuff
Learn MMA or work out at the gym. Going to the gym to work out will not only keep you healthy, but it also helps with your physical appearance, and both can help increase your confidence. Learning mixed martial arts automatically gives you the title of a fighter. And being able to fight has made guys more confident since the beginning of time
Dancing
Why do male dancers always get all the girls? It’s because they are confident! Dancing is a major form of self expression. If you can dance, you already have the edge over 90% of guys. If you're not good at dancing, take some lessons and watch your confidence skyrocket.
Music
Music is another channel for expressing yourself that can increase your confidence and have girls go crazy for you. Take a look at rock stars, rappers and Justin Bieber. 'Nuff said.
Practicing
Confidence is a result of practice. Becoming confident with girls will not occur right away but it will steadily develop if you practice at it the right way. And remember, confidence creates confidence. The more you are confident in one area of your life, the more it will carry over to other parts of your life. Practice confidence at all times.
What You Should Not Do
Complaining
No one enjoys hearing a guy whine and complain about all of his problems, and particularly not girls who are hot and in high demand. They have problems of their own. Whining and complaining shows her that you're definitely an unconfident amateur. Anytime there is a problem, be a man, take charge and instead of wasting time complaining, try to find a positive solution to make things better.
Calling Too Often
Calling her too much shows that you don't have anything more exciting to do with your time. Give her room to breathe. Consider this: If someone was calling you non-stop, would you consider that person is confident or irritating? Don't chase her, let her chase you.
Crying Out For Attention
People that demand attention are best described by one word: insecure. People who are confident do not need to brag, boast, show off or be loud and obnoxious about it. Confidence is a silent language that can be understood even without you having to say “Look here! I’m Confident!”
Giving Up
Those who give up or who aren't persistent enough often stop in the midst of trouble. Yet learning how to be confident with girls is characterized by trying and trying again until you make the improbable a reality. Always be looking at the bigger picture or your long term success. A rejection is not the end of the world. Regroup and try again later.
Making a Big Deal out of Small Things
Never make a bid deal out of small things or blow things out of proportion. If you do, it suggests a deep lack of confidence because if you can't handle the small things, you sure as hell can't handle the big things. Girls like guys who can handle the big things.
Learning how to be confident with girls is not difficult, but it does take time. Fortunately, since you know why and how to begin building confidence, you can get started right now! And remember, practice, practice, practice!
Subscribe to:
Comments (Atom)